Last week, I was reading an article about how swapping simple words and phrases can change the whole dynamics of conversations and even shift relationships!
So, here are five words (or phrases) I wanted to share with you to start practicing with:
- Instead of saying "But" use the word "And" — Using "but" instead of "and" often has the effect of changing a statement into a negative one. The use of “but” closes off the conversation while “and” opens it up.
- Instead of saying "Have To" say the words "Want To" — “Have to” makes you believe that a situation has been forced upon you instead of chosen by you. Doing something that you don’t want to do is easier when you feel like it’s your choice instead of being forced to do it.
- Instead of saying "Can't" use the word "Won't." — “Can’t” implies helplessness; “Won’t” represents choice and willingness. Swapping these words is very empowering.
- Instead of saying "I'm Afraid To" say "I'd Like To" — Saying “I’m afraid to” is one of the most blocking phrases there is. It sets your mind up for fear and defeat instead of desire and winning.
- Instead of saying "Help" use "Assist" — When you use the word “help”, you are likely setting your mind up to believe you are helpless. Replacing “help” with “assist” sets your mind up to see that you are an important part of the solution to any problem.
Words are very powerful and if you start to practice switching out these five words or phrases in your everyday conversations, you will feel a positive effect on your relationships with family, friends, customers, and team members.